Isn't if odd that there are so many perfect people out there? I seem to run into them all the time. In fact, I know many of them. I have met and become acquaintances with them also. I have had girlfriends and co-workers that have been so close to the gold standard of human perfection that I must attract them like a lightning rod! It must be hard to be them, being so perfect and all, that they have all the time in the world to sit around and judge the rest of us. I don’t know about you out there, but I get a little sick of their holier than thou attitude! They annoy me so much that it almost wants me to get violent. But then I realize why I am here, gain some solace in that, and begin to calm down. At this point I realize that they are only human beings like the rest of us and that they too, have their faults.

Being judgmental of others is probably one of the most destructive actions that one can do to oneself and others in their lives. I don’t want you to get the wrong idea; I too have been guilty of this in the past and probably will be guilty of this in the future. I have judged others and then talked about those particular people in the attempts to make myself feel better (I admit this freely, but a word of warning: anyone who doesn’t is a dangerous person or is self deluded). It is just that it is so disconcerting when I know a person or persons who excel so strongly at this particular activity, because it can be so destructive in their lives and in the lives of others.

Judging others is destructive to us because it makes our "good" self esteem dependent upon putting others down, in the attempts of making ourselves seem like better, stronger and more valuable people. If you are caught in this "web" of deceiving yourself, you will never be a happy person inside because you always rely on the angst of others to feel like a worthy person. Judging people hurts them because you are telling certain others that these people are sub-standard and may not be worthy of your attentions (If you judge and gossip it compounds the problem). If you judge only in your mind, it is a quiet hate and contempt that doesn't make others think badly of that person, but it hurts you in the long run (as stated above).

Finally, judging a person hurts the person that you are judging. I mean really, who wants to be judged? It hurts being the judged person because others are sitting around thinking and maybe even talking about you in a negative way. The adage that states: "If you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all"; is one of the best pieces of advice that was ever given to mankind.

One of the nicest things that you can do in life is, when you see someone has done something wrong, put your arm around that person and say, "I have been there, I am not perfect, I have done wrong and I will not judge you for your actions". Since we are all imperfect human beings with the same flaws and faults, what gives us the right to look down at another and say: "Will you look at that idiot, I am so glad that I am not him."? When you live in a glass house, you shouldn't throw stones.

"Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone". (John 8:7)